We had the good fortune of connecting with Dr. Lindsay Banks and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Dr. Lindsay, how has your work-life balance changed over time?
My work-life balance has changed significantly over the past few years, especially since my boys are a little older now. In reality, when you are a professional and have a family there will be times when one area will receive a little more attention but the key is to never neglect one in place of the other. Over time, I have created a lifestyle that allows me ample space to focus on my business, spend quality time with my family and practice self-care, which is an area that can easily be overlooked when you have both a career and family. I make a concentrated effort to schedule time for each area plus some “white space” so I don’t over-book or clutter my schedule. The “white space” creates a cushion so I don’t feel so rushed moving from one area to the next which dramatically cuts down on my stress. It also allows time for mental breaks and self-reflection which helps to ignite my creative brain. I now think of “work-life balance” as more of creating harmony in my life. Each area will not necessarily get the exact same amount of time (balance) but rather create synergy where each area is able to integrate with the next.
Let’s talk shop? Tell us more about your career, what can you share with our community?
My professional career has definitely been full of highs, lows and everything in between. In hindsight, I know everything I have experienced along the way was necessary to prepare me for the role I was destined to fulfill. I have learned so many lessons along the way but the ones that have stuck out and made the biggest difference in my life are as follows:
1. Everyone Will Not Support You. Starting a business is a very exciting yet scary thing. It takes stamina and persistence to keep going because when you first start no one will be checking for you. If you are doing something just for the validation and attention of others then you are doing it for the wrong reason. You will need passion to help you push through the hard times. I do what I do because I want to inspire others to take charge of their health, it’s truly my passion and my purpose. So to those of you who are just starting out and you feel that no one is supporting you, just be thankful for those that do and keep it moving. Focus on the positive and not the negative.
2.Nobody Is Responsible For Your Happiness But You. This was a tough one to learn; actually it has only been in recent years that I truly embraced this concept. It is not up to your spouse, children, friends, parents or anyone else to make you happy. Happiness is an inside job and it is up to you to create the life you desire, no one else. If you are not happy with your life, it’s time to self-reflect and really take a moment to explore what you want out of life and then go after it!
3. Slow And Steady Progress Is Better Than No Progress At All. A simple fact is that things will happen for you when they are meant to happen. Sometimes life happens and our plans get derailed. But when life happens, giving up completely is not the answer. Think about the next best step and continue to move forward with your plans. I was literally about to sign a lease for a new Chiropractic office space and the country shut down. After much consideration I decided to wait a few months to see how things played out. Instead of being idle, I am taking this time to complete a certification I have been wanting that will enhance my ability to care for my patients, save money, reduce debt and prepare systems/protocols that will help me to run my office smoothly. I will now actually be in a better position when I do open my office! Again, slow progress is better than no progress. I had to realize that the only person putting pressure on me was me; most of the time we are our own harshest critic.
4. Growth Is Right Outside Your Comfort Zone. In order for us to become the person we are meant to be it requires us to grow in all areas of our life. A lot of times we stop ourselves from moving forward with our dreams because of negative self-talk. Over the past year, I have stepped out of my comfort zone many times which has resulted in many opportunities and new connections. I am at a point in life where I am more afraid to not go after what I want. So my advice is if you have to do it scared, do it scared!
5. Comparison Is The Thief Of Joy! Have you every been happy about your life then you take a scroll on social media and feel like you are not doing enough? If not, good for you because I certainly have. It’s important to remember that behind the scenes, you have no idea what that person has been through to get where they are now. Focus on being your personal best and do not distract yourself with what others are doing. Honestly, this just slows you down from your own progress. It’s okay to use others for inspiration and motivation but not idolization. Take pride in the fact that no one else is just like you and use your uniqueness to change the world in your own special way!
If you had a friend visiting you, what are some of the local spots you’d want to take them around to?
Last August, I literally just hosted a girls trip with three of my childhood friends. I have been knowing each of these ladies for 20 plus years. In fact, they were all in my wedding! I have only been in Houston for 4 years so I definitely don’t know all the “hotspots” plus I am more of a homebody but we definitely had a great time. Our itinerary consisted of happy hour at Pappasitos, followed by a trip to Total Wines to stock up for the next couple of days and of course I had to take them to go try on some cowgirl boots at Cavender’s, I mean this is Texas! We also went to Main street in downtown which has a variety of bars, clubs, restaurants and is a good place to go people watching. I took them to the Breakfast Klub for brunch, we hit up Graffiti Park and the Waterwall as well! At this point our age caught up with us and we decided to hang out at the house. We spent one evening drinking wine and creating a dance routine to Beyonce’s Homecoming which we later bought matching shirts for and recorded. Our youth comes out when we are together! Lastly, we went to Wild Stallion Vineyards for a day of wine tasting. I can certainly say with my friends, it doesn’t matter where we go, we always enjoy ourselves. Honestly, that is what 20 plus years of true friendship gets you; plenty of memories, laughs and good times!
Who else deserves some credit and recognition?
I have been blessed to have several individuals who have played a role in my success but the top two are my parents and my husband. First and foremost my parents. My parents have always motivated me to put my best effort forward at all times, they have supported me every step of the way. Even when I told them I was moving across the country with their two youngest grandsons, they were sad but didn’t try to stop me. They wished me the best and were excited for the new opportunity I had been given in regards to my career. I remember one time in my early twenties before Chiropractic school, I was trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I was offered the opportunity to be a teacher in a weekend program for high school students. It was good money for someone my age but they wanted me to teach Physics out of all things! At the time, I had my Bachelors with a major in Zoology and a minor in Chemistry. I had only taken two Physics classes and I certainly didn’t feel I had enough knowledge base to provide proper instruction at the time. Could I have done it? Yes, but it would have just been for the money and in my heart of hearts that was not fair to the students. When I asked my father for advice, he told me, I’m pretty sure you are capable but if this is something you are not passionate about and it takes you off the path of your true career interests, then do not do it. He didn’t try to tell me what to do, he didn’t tell me to do it for the money but he encouraged me to follow my passion which eventually led me to Chiropractic school. Secondly, my husband who has also supported me in everything and I do mean EVERYTHING! From going to Chiropractic school, to me starting a practice, to going back to school to get my masters so I could advance my career in higher education and then moving across the country when I was offered my dream position. I know for a fact, some men would not have been so comfortable being with a woman who is as highly ambitious as me. If I was a single mother, it would have been ten times as hard for me to accomplish what I have and I totally recognize that. Of course, things have not always been perfect and we have had our share of hard times but my success has never intimidated my husband and I truly thank him for that. He knows that my success is OUR success, we are a team! When you have the proper support system, then anything is possible. I realize that everyone is not as fortunate so I make a conscious effort to practice gratitude on a daily basis. This is also another reason I like to collaborate with other women in support networks to build ourselves both personally and professionally. After all , we are stronger together.