We had the good fortune of connecting with Aleeza Ben Shalom and we’ve shared our conversation below.
Hi Aleeza, what habits do you feel play an important role in your life?
I had to learn to slow down to the speed of life. Even though I have many ideas and I am motivated to make things happen I wasn’t always able to move as quickly as I wanted. Learning to move at the pace of life helped me to be patient with the process and to prepare myself for the long haul. I wasn’t in business only for a year or two this is something I’m prepared to do for a lifetime. I had to be willing to grow my business at a pace that was also good for my family in order to make it sustainable.
What should our readers know about your business?
I’m a dating coach, dream maker and lover of love. I help marriage minded singles find someone wonderful and go from “I like you” to “I want to marry you.” I started this business, Marriage Minded Mentor, because I didn’t want to get a real job. To me there is nothing more meaningful in life than to bring couples together. I was 9 months pregnant with my 4th child when I decided to start this business. My coach told me to get my first 5 clients and book them for a month after my due date! To her surprise I started coaching 2 weeks before I gave birth and have been coaching ever since. While business isn’t easy, it is an utter joy when you’re doing something you love. I have worked hard, played hard and made time for my family. Since I started my business I had my 5th child, got a puppy and am preparing for an international move. And all of this was able to happen because I had a business that gave me flexible work hours. As my kids grew my work hours changed and my business adapted to my life. I have always put family first, although I do now work longer hours and have much busier schedule. Marriage Minded Mentor is made up of marriage minded coaches, marriage minded singles and a positive vision of the life that awaits every single. We not only believe, but we know singles will find their soulmate. We empower their search and bring new life to the process. The best criticism that we’ve received is that we are “too positive” about the process. The greatest compliment was a text message from a former client that said, “Tonight is our third anniversary. Thanks for giving me the tools to get here!” The fact that someone sends a thank you after 3 years of marriage for the work we did…I know we had an enormous impact.
Let’s say your best friend was visiting the area and you wanted to show them the best time ever. Where would you take them? Give us a little itinerary – say it was a week long trip, where would you eat, drink, visit, hang out, etc.
I’d take my best friend for a carriage ride down town in the historical district of Philadelphia. Then we’d grab my favorite Kosher Chinese food and do takeout and have a picnic on the Art museum steps next to the Rocky statue. Later that evening we would take a walk and look at boat house row and enjoy the lights, water and peaceful view. In the fall I’d take them to our favorite pumpkin patch. We would run around the corn maze racing to see who could figure it out the fastest. Then we would pick pumpkins. Our rule is if you can carry it I’ll buy it! On a bright sunny day I’d hop on a bike and we’d bike down our local path and go for a nice long ride all the way to Valley Forge Park. We would ride around and see the log cabins, historical monuments and enjoy the rolling hills. On the way home we’d stop at Trader Joe’s to grab some easy to prep food and make a comfortable dinner at home while dining out on our beautifully lit deck. Then I’d borrow my friends camper and drive up to the Poconos. In the winter we would go snow tubing! At night we’d enjoy our rented log cabin as we roast marshmallows over the fire.
Shoutout is all about shouting out others who you feel deserve additional recognition and exposure. Who would you like to shoutout?
Shout out to my mom of blessed memory. She was my best friend, #1 fan and my greatest teacher. I can still her her encouraging words in my head. She taught me all about how to give, receive and grow love. I could not do the work I do today without her loving guidance and support. May her memory be a blessing.
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